I do a lot of talking about fear and getting past it, working around it, not letting it make your decisions for you.
And I think sometimes that makes it sound like I want to just see you being super brave all of the time. Like, we identify the fear and then we just leap tall buildings in a single bound kind of brave. Sometimes when I’m listening to another coach or an inspiring human, that’s my reaction.
Like, “Well, I’m glad you figured out how to be brave enough to swim the English Channel, but hells no I’m not going to do anything like that or be that brave EVER.”
My relationship with fear is old and it likes to tell me that I will never be brave enough to do anything worth talking about.
And when I think about bravery and being myself and taking risks as something that I need to don a superhero’s cape to do, it is so much easier to give in to that belief that fear wants me to have. It is so much more tempting to shrug off my preferences and dreams and just stay with caution, nice sweet status quo occasionally soul-sucking caution.
But there’s this thing, something Cheryl Strayed reminded me of this morning.
You don’t have to have the courage of an entire platoon of people liberating a European village in WWII. You don’t have to try to leap a tall building in a single bound. You don’t have to decide to swim the English Channel to take a step forward. You just have to be brave enough to take one step forward.
You have to be brave enough to be honest with yourself about what’s going on with you.
You have to be brave enough to be honest with yourself about what you do and don’t want in your life.
You have to be brave enough to keep wise counsel as you make these considerations and not let other people’s opinions hold TOO much sway.
You have to be brave enough to listen to yourself: not the nattering voice that wants you to grab a bag of chips and the remote because it’s scary out there, but the voice that is calling you into integrity, that is encouraging you to be more yourself. You have to listen to what that is.
You have be brave enough to act on what you discover in the realm of soul truth.
You have to be brave enough for those things, but you don’t have to do them all in the same moment.
You only have to be brave enough to take one step, whatever that might look like.
Maybe it looks like writing without ceasing for 10 minutes about whatever’s going on in your head.
Maybe it looks like talking to a trusted friend about the things that you’ve been afraid to reveal.
Maybe it looks like getting really, really quiet so you can hear.
You don’t have to take all of the steps at once beloveds.
You only need to be brave enough to take one.
If you need some support, I’d be delighted to walk with you.